Dear Introvert

Carl Vilhelm Holsoe
Carl Vilhelm Holsoe

Dear Introvert,

You’re terrifying! Yes, you. To an extrovert you are terrifying. I love you, I have befriended you and married you, but that doesn’t mean I completely “get” you. Let me explain why.

The world is said to be a stage; a big extroverted, go-getter free-for-all, where people think, and act, and apologize on the spot. And all the while, the introvert it seems, is sleeping.

I know your not! That’s the thing. You’re actually thinking… And thinking… And thinking some more. Why so much thinking?

It seems as though you should be in a constant state of tortured turmoil. But you introvert, you find peace in the quite and serene, friends among the weeds.

Your thoughts are a mystery to us all. A cumulation of processing and planning, and other things that scare me to death.

Introvert 1

In fact, your responses seem to keep you guessing just as much as they do me! I’m flabbergasted by your inability to formulate a response as you’re hearing the very question. And then the astonishment on your face as I draw my conclusion, in a moment of surprised revelation, would appear as if I’ve pulled a rabbit from my hat. But I ask you, what else does one do while searching for a way to end their sentence?

Where is your thought process headed introvert; veiled beneath layers of grey matter? Why oh why won’t you let me in?

Introvert 2


Dear introvert, I know the hamster wheel is turning, it always is. But why aren’t you explaining each turn and course of logic as it turns?  Where are your words? You are a silent story being read in front of me, with only small facial expressions to fill the pictures of blank pages (Oh, and I will.) What are you painting?

When engaged, you withdraw; sulking to the edges of a social gathering, recharging your temporary social batteries. You’ve got the back doors mapped out, the exits memorized, and an excuse waiting on the tip of your tongue.

No, you aren’t a secret agent or high-profile spy. You simply long for the peaceful drive home, where you can once again surrender to the safety of your familiar abode.

Introvert 3

Dear introvert, have mercy on me, an extrovert! Bear with my quick responses and call to action. Allow me to drag you through the mental minefield of my vocalized problem solving.

Try not to shut down completely when accompanying me on a string of social escapades. Understand I’m better redirected than slowed down, and my batteries are often solar (which can be seasonally dangerous!)

Lastly, did I mention I love you in all your nonsensical, tangential, melancholic, and completely confounding behavior? Well, for some reason, I do.

P.S. – Not the last time I will be illogical!

The Extrovert

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  1. Deacon Tom says

    Ha Ha… LOL… Has my wife been in touch with you (secretly)? Except in certain cases, the situation is reversed. One has a (specially equipped, high-speed, think-before-speaking, consider the audience) speech generator. The other? Quietly observes, saying the first thought that comes to a cluster of cells nearest to the tongue/vocal cord area…. Scientists first observed this phenom when they developed: ‘opposites attract.’

    BTW: Headed towards FUS for priest/deacon retreat… Should I visit any of your old haunts? Take pics? Smiles. Blessings..

    dcn tom

    • says

      Why am I not surprised by this personality description from you, ha ha! So excited that you will be at the conference. Just ran into Fr. Dave Pivonka a few weekends ago, who will also be there. Love that Porciuncula!

    • says

      Opposites definitely attract Bianca! I really can’t imagine how we would function if we were both like me, and we’d probably never talk if we were both like him ?

  2. Blanca says

    Dear Extrovert,

    How dull life would be without you. You give me spiritual workout I badly need daily, thank you. Without you I would be lost in my own world of thoughts. You never cease to amaze me with things you ask of me. But this one just blows my mind away. Pardon my long time spent thinking before arriving at the conclusion that mercy is illogical!

    Yes I freely give you what you ask but I must admit that my logical being is in much more need of mercy. So please pray for me with your illogical prayers which I can only logically conclude are more effective than mine.


    The Introvert

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